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Friday, November 16, 2018

$1,000 Reward

We are offering a $1,000 REWARD for information leading to the arrest of the person responsible for the death of my son in a fatal hit and run on I-69 South on the Green River overpass in Evansville, Indiana around 11:00pm on Friday, June 22, 2018.The car that hit him was determined to be a 1998-2002 Silver Honda Accord. There would have been considerable damage to the front, passenger side of the vehicle, but it could be repaired by now. (See the Sheriff Bulletin below).

If you have any information, please contact the Sheriff's Office TIP line at 812-421-6297 or leave a web tip here.

PLEASE KEEP YOUR EYE OUT
FOR THE CAR THAT KILLED MY SON!

Even if you don't live in the Evansville area, please keep an eye out for this car. It was traveling South on I-69. It could have been coming from and going to anywhere. The Sheriff's office will follow up any ANY lead.

The Sheriff’s Office has identified the make and model of the suspect vehicle from the fatal hit and run crash that killed 23-year old David “Davy” Egan, father of two, on Friday, June 22, 2018 on I-69 near south Green River Road.
SUSPECT VEHICLE: Silver 1998-2002 Honda Accord sedan. 2-door or 4-door body style. The vehicle will have damage to the front end (which could have been repaired by now).

If you know of a vehicle matching this description, please contact the Sheriff's Office TIP line at 812-421-6297 or leave a web tip here.

Thursday, November 15, 2018

"Shrine"

Every day since Davy's funeral, the funeral home has been sending an email intended to help process grief. Several of them have mentioned creating a "shrine". I did so, unintentionally, before I got any emails dealing with that subject.

I say "unintentionally", because I sat the picture of Davy on this table when I brought it home after his funeral. I sat the urn and the small decanter of rocks on the shelf. When my sister sent the book to me, I put it next to his picture. Little by little, it became a "shrine", but I never thought about that when I was putting things on that table.

Below is a picture of my "Davy Table". You'll probably need to click on the image to enlarge it to read what each item is (I noted it on the photo) ... or ... you could scroll down and read about each of the items.

Isn't it funny how the tiniest of things take on so much meaning, like the rocks, when those things are all you have left?

I bought this for Davy last year. I told him to keep it in his pocket. He didn't, but he did keep it in a safe place, and I was lucky enough to get it back after he died.
Davy dug through the sand at preschool every day to find rocks to give to me when I picked him up. The week after he died, I found tiny rocks on my living room floor. I had never found any rocks before or since that week.
This is Davy's 7th grade picture. It's one of my favorites. I like it so much because it's the last school picture where he had that innocent, little boy look.
One of my sisters folded the pages of a book into Davy's name. She sent one to me and both of my daughters. I don't know how long it took, but I do know every fold was carefully and painfully made. The girls and I treasure our books.

Davy bought this for me for Christmas when he was four years old. I've had it on display in one place or another ever since. I love this statue. How many times did I told my sweet baby boy like this? The flowers are from his funeral. I just left them be and let them dry.
A small urn with Davy's ashes and a lock of his hair. It's just the right size to hold in my hand when I need to feel closer to my son.

I've posted this before ... as soon as I saw it, I knew this is exactly what Davy would have done when he met Jesus in heaven.
PLEASE KEEP YOUR EYE OUT
FOR THE CAR THAT KILLED MY SON!

Even if you don't live in the Evansville area, please keep an eye out for this car. It was traveling South on I-69. It could have been coming from and going to anywhere. The Sheriff's office will follow up any ANY lead.

The Sheriff’s Office has identified the make and model of the suspect vehicle from the fatal hit and run crash that killed 23-year old David “Davy” Egan, father of two, on Friday, June 22, 2018 on I-69 near south Green River Road.
SUSPECT VEHICLE: Silver 1998-2002 Honda Accord sedan. 2-door or 4-door body style. The vehicle will have damage to the front end.

If you know of a vehicle matching this description, please contact the Sheriff's Office TIP line at 812-421-6297 or leave a web tip here.


Tuesday, November 13, 2018

This Man DESPERATELY Needs a Thesaurus!

(The above screenshot is so small it's very hard to read. If your vision doesn't magnify it like a superhero, (mine doesn't) ... you can click on it to enlarge it and it's much easier to read.)

An UPDATE on Morning Visitors ... The buck and the doe stayed outside my bedroom window all day and into the early evening yesterday. The last time I saw the pair was around 5:30pm. I have seen a lot of deer out my bedroom window, but they never stayed all day. The longest I have seen them stay was 3-4 hours ... so this was a real treat!

And, since I was pretending the buck was Davy, and that he brought a girl with him, the pleasure of seeing those two silent, graceful animals was amplified greatly. There has been scant happiness during the last 4 months, 3 weeks, and 1 day ... so having "Davy" and his friend outside my window all day brought me immense joy.

PLEASE KEEP YOUR EYE OUT
FOR THE CAR THAT KILLED MY SON!

Even if you don't live in the Evansville area, please keep an eye out for this car. It was traveling South on I-69. It could have been coming from and going to anywhere. The Sheriff's office will follow up any ANY lead.

The Sheriff’s Office has identified the make and model of the suspect vehicle from the fatal hit and run crash that killed 23-year old David “Davy” Egan, father of two, on Friday, June 22, 2018 on I-69 near south Green River Road.
SUSPECT VEHICLE: Silver 1998-2002 Honda Accord sedan. 2-door or 4-door body style. The vehicle will have damage to the front end.

If you know of a vehicle matching this description, please contact the Sheriff's Office TIP line at 812-421-6297 or leave a web tip here.

Monday, November 12, 2018

Morning Visitors

I have seen several deer lounging outside my bedroom windows since I've lived here. There was a time where I didn't see any for a long time, which was unusual, but that drought was broken a day or two after Davy died. Every deer I have seen here was a doe, but today, I saw my first buck.


When the kids were living here, I would show them the deer outside my window ... but only if they were awake. If you try to wake them up when they don't have to be awake, they act like a cornered animal! At our old house, we saw plenty of squirrels, raccoons, occasionally a opossum, and on one rare instance, we saw a deer. We had a woods behind the house when we moved in to my old house, but after about six years or so, they cleared the woods. It was to develop something that has never came to fruition, so those gigantic trees were cleared for nothing. It made me sick to see those extraordinarily large trees felled.

I was at home when they took the one directly behind my house. It was big enough that if it had fallen during a storm, it would have taken out not only my house and my next door neighbor's, but also a couple of houses across the street. Three men were standing in front of it about a foot apart, their hands on their hips ... and there was still a foot or two of tree on either side of the outside men.

When they started cutting on it, I walked away. I couldn't watch ... but I knew when it had fallen ... it felt like an earthquake.

Okay, back to the deer. When I opened my drapes this morning, I saw a deer, but I couldn't see it too well from my bedroom window, so I went into my bathroom. That's where I saw it wasn't just a deer, but a buck ... and I also saw a doe that I hadn't seen at all when peering out my bedroom window.


It's silly and untrue, I know, but I like to think the buck is Davy ... that God put that buck there as a way of telling me I can quit mourning so deeply ... that I don't need to cry or walk around on the verge of tears anymore. While I do know my son is gone from earth, I think it will be quite a long time before I don't want to cry all day every day.

Davy was quite the chick magnet. When we'd go swimming, he would go off to play and come back with a harem of girls in less than a half an hour ... so it doesn't surprise me that "Davy" brought a girl with him when he came to visit.

I watched the deer on and off all day as they sat silently, chewing something, or moved around and foraged, eating whatever deer eat in the woods.


Most days, I don't cry. I want to, but I don't. When I feel the tears starting, I reel them back in. Last Friday, however, that wasn't the case. I was on my way to Thing 2's house to help her fluff-up the branches of her Christmas tree. Yes, you read that right ... that silly girl put her CHRISTMAS tree up on NOVEMBER 8th!

I had some time to kill before she got home, so I sat in my car across the street from where Davy lived when he died. I was listening to "I Will Praise You in This Storm", by Casting Crowns. As soon as I heard the line "I will raise my hands and and praise the God who gives, and takes away" ... I lost it, and the tears I'd been holding in for so long found their way out.

Praise You in This Storm
by Casting Crowns

I was sure by now God you would have reached down
and wiped our tears away,
stepped in and saved the day.
But once again, I say amen
that it's still raining
And as the thunder rolls
I barely hear your whisper through the rain
I'm with you
And as your mercy falls
I raise my hands and praise
the God who gives and takes away

You can listen to the song (with lyrics) here ...



Driving home from Thing 2's house Friday night, I saw a deer run across the road in the distance. When I got to where it had crossed, I looked over, and it was still there ... a majestic buck ... staring right at me. I know it's not, but I'm pretending the buck outside my window as I type is the same one I saw that night.

The girls and I feel lost right now ... like we're floating on the ocean without any means of propulsion ... and even if we had the means to move ... we can't see any land in sight and have no idea which way to go anyway.

Still, I do trust God ... the girls and I all do ... and we know Davy dying so young was somehow part of His plan. We have no idea why His plan involved taking him just shy of his 24th birthday, but it did. Our grief is still raw. Our hearts feel like it's in a vise, and there's a weight on our chest as though someone were sitting on it.

Our lives changed forever in those early morning hours on June 23, 2018 when the Detectives and Coroner stood on his porch, just hours after Davy was killed the night before ... and, as gently as they could, they told us that my only son and my daughter's brother was gone. We will never be the same. His sisters and I will always be acutely aware of Davy's absence, and we will always feel the pain his death brought into our lives.

But we still trust God ... and despite our grief, we will raise our hands and praise the God who gives ... and takes away.

PLEASE KEEP YOUR EYE OUT
FOR THE CAR THAT KILLED MY SON!

Even if you don't live in the Evansville area, please keep an eye out for this car. It was traveling South on I-69. It could have been coming from and going to anywhere. The Sheriff's office will follow up any ANY lead.

The Sheriff’s Office has identified the make and model of the suspect vehicle from the fatal hit and run crash that killed 23-year old David “Davy” Egan, father of two, on Friday, June 22, 2018 on I-69 near south Green River Road.
SUSPECT VEHICLE: Silver 1998-2002 Honda Accord sedan. 2-door or 4-door body style. The vehicle will have damage to the front end.

If you know of a vehicle matching this description, please contact the Sheriff's Office TIP line at 812-421-6297 or leave a web tip here.

Friday, November 9, 2018

Chili

There is nothing more satisfying that listening to the "ping" of jars of homemade, pressure-canned chili, and knowing your future holds this yumminess (I made that word up!) with no more effort than going to the pantry and opening the jar.


PLEASE KEEP YOUR EYE OUT
FOR THE CAR THAT KILLED MY SON!

Even if you don't live in the Evansville area, please keep an eye out for this car. It was traveling South on I-69. It could have been coming from and going to anywhere. The Sheriff's office will follow up any ANY lead.

The Sheriff’s Office has identified the make and model of the suspect vehicle from the fatal hit and run crash that killed 23-year old David “Davy” Egan, father of two, on Friday, June 22, 2018 on I-69 near south Green River Road.
SUSPECT VEHICLE: Silver 1998-2002 Honda Accord sedan. 2-door or 4-door body style. The vehicle will have damage to the front end.

If you know of a vehicle matching this description, please contact the Sheriff's Office TIP line at 812-421-6297 or leave a web tip here.

Tuesday, November 6, 2018

As Roseanne Roseannadanna said ...

"It's always something. If it's not one thing, it's another."

Years ago, the state planted ivy for erosion control on the hill on one side of my property. When I moved here, the ivy had was in various stages of growing up all of the trees in my woods, and it had killed several. I spent two summers pulling ivy off the trees, some with roots as big as a tree. I used a chainsaw, hacksaw, or clippers to pull what I could off the government trees that I could reach from my side of the fence.

I also cut down some of the small trees on their side that were growing close to the fence. The woods on the government side is pretty thick, and ALL of their leaves fall in my backyard. I must have a very hospitable yard, because once they leaves came to my yard, they were quite content to stay. (They liked the yard at my last house, too.)  Cutting down those small trees solved two very small problems ... they won't grow to be large trees with truckloads of leaves that would have undoubtedly fell in my yard and they won't get to be giant trees covered in ivy, ready to fall on my house.

There are some huge trees over there completely covered in ivy too far away to reach. There is also tons of poison ivy, oak, and sumac over there. To me, that's the boogie man!

Last summer a sizable branch broke off one of the government trees and fell in my yard. I had just finished cutting down small maples and scruffy pine trees with a chainsaw, so I just cut up the government tree and burned the bug-infested wood in my outdoor fireplace. There was nothing planted where it fell, so all it cost me was time and energy. No biggie.




A few nights ago, the top of that same tree fell. The only reason I saw it when I did was because I couldn't connect to the internet the night before, and I had to run home to wait for my ISP.

My heart stopped when I pulled into the drive. ... I thought it had crushed Davy's dogwood! I ran to the tree, literally fighting back tears. I can't tell you how relieved to see it had not landed on it, but it was leaning against it, forcing Davy's tree to an odd angle.

My neighbor from across the street saw me, totally unsuccessfully, try to move the fallen tree away from Davy's. He stopped and rolled it off. I was SO grateful.






When the limb fell, it hit the power line coming into my house, but I didn't lose power. It did, however, make the utility pole across the street lean, and pulled the electrical lines off of my neighbors. I didn't lose power, but it did bend the weatherhead on the house. I was told it might be able to be bent back, but I would need an electrician to look at it.

My sweet brother-in-law came over and looked at it. He said the pipe is 2-1/2" steel, and he couldn't bend it back by himself. His biggest concern was that it being bent like that was exposing my flashing. He was concerned that it would damage my ceiling if it rained. I was concerned about that, too, but I was just as concerned that the hole was big enough for a squirrel to get in! He ran to get what he needed to wrap the exposed part while he waited on one of my son-in-laws to come over and help him try to straighten it.


Unfortunately, the pipe broke when they tried to bend it back. My brother-in-law is a licensed electrician in a nuclear power plant, but he's never done this kind of installation, so this is not something he'd be comfortable doing. I appreciate what he did and the fact that he tried to fix the pipe.

Oh, goodie! I get to hire an electrician.

The good news is that they sealed the pipe so that rain and critters can't get in ... but the best news is that Davy's tree is unharmed!!!!!! All I need is a new spike to hold it to where it can grow straight and strong. That, I can easily do.

I still need to cut up the tree, but that's a Sunday job.


PLEASE KEEP YOUR EYE OUT
FOR THE CAR THAT KILLED MY SON!

Even if you don't live in the Evansville area, please keep an eye out for this car. It was traveling South on I-69. It could have been coming from and going to anywhere. The Sheriff's office will follow up any ANY lead.

The Sheriff’s Office has identified the make and model of the suspect vehicle from the fatal hit and run crash that killed 23-year old David “Davy” Egan, father of two, on Friday, June 22, 2018 on I-69 near south Green River Road.
SUSPECT VEHICLE: Silver 1998-2002 Honda Accord sedan. 2-door or 4-door body style. The vehicle will have damage to the front end.



If you know of a vehicle matching this description, please contact the Sheriff's Office TIP line at 812-421-6297 or leave a web tip here.

Monday, November 5, 2018

The Baby Shark Song

And now you'll have this song stuck in your head, too!


PLEASE KEEP YOUR EYE OUT
FOR THE CAR THAT KILLED MY SON!

Even if you don't live in the Evansville area, please keep an eye out for this car. It was traveling South on I-69. It could have been coming from and going to anywhere. The Sheriff's office will follow up any ANY lead.

The Sheriff’s Office has identified the make and model of the suspect vehicle from the fatal hit and run crash that killed 23-year old David “Davy” Egan, father of two, on Friday, June 22, 2018 on I-69 near south Green River Road.
SUSPECT VEHICLE: Silver 1998-2002 Honda Accord sedan. 2-door or 4-door body style. The vehicle will have damage to the front end.



If you know of a vehicle matching this description, please contact the Sheriff's Office TIP line at 812-421-6297 or leave a web tip here.


Sunday, November 4, 2018

Today is "Use Your Common Sense Day"

There are a few people I desperately wish would celebrate this holiday!

Raise your hand if you think this should be a law, where everyone was required to use common sense every day ... and not just an obscure holiday celebrated one a year!!!

We can test it out by enacting it first in Washington DC. Can I get an "Amen"!
 
PLEASE KEEP YOUR EYE OUT
FOR THE CAR THAT KILLED MY SON!
Even if you don't live in the Evansville area, please keep an eye out for this car. It was traveling South on I-69. It could have been coming from and going to anywhere. The Sheriff's office will follow up any ANY lead.

The Sheriff’s Office has identified the make and model of the suspect vehicle from the fatal hit and run crash that killed 23-year old David “Davy” Egan, father of two, on Friday, June 22, 2018 on I-69 near south Green River Road.

SUSPECT VEHICLE: Silver 1998-2002 Honda Accord sedan. 2-door or 4-door body style. The vehicle will have damage to the front end.

If you know of a vehicle matching this description, please contact the Sheriff's Office TIP line at 812-421-6297 or leave a web tip here.