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Wednesday, August 15, 2018

Is This Not the Happiest Muffin You Have Ever Seen?


PLEASE KEEP YOUR EYE OUT
FOR THE CAR THAT KILLED MY SON!
Even if you don't live in the Evansville area, please keep an eye out for this car. It was traveling South on I-69. It could have been coming from and going to anywhere. The Sheriff's office will follow up any ANY lead.

The Sheriff’s Office has identified the make and model of the suspect vehicle from the fatal hit and run crash that killed 23-year old David “Davy” Egan, father of two, on Friday, June 22, 2018 on I-69 near south Green River Road.

SUSPECT VEHICLE: Silver 1998-2002 Honda Accord sedan. 2-door or 4-door body style. The vehicle will have damage to the front end.

If you know of a vehicle matching this description, please contact the Sheriff's Office TIP line at 812-421-6297 or leave a web tip here.

Tuesday, August 14, 2018

Christmas 2015

This print is something I wanted to buy for Davy for years, but it was expensive enough that I kept putting it off. I finally did buy it for him for Christmas 2015. He didn't take it with him when he moved out. When it came to faith, he was unequally yoked. I can only assume that's why he didn't take it with him. A non-Christian likely wouldn't allow this to be hung in their home.

It is now one of the first things you seen when you enter my house. I wish that Davy was still alive and this was hanging in his house ... and that he felt the Lord's love every time he glanced at it.






PLEASE KEEP YOUR EYE OUT
FOR THE CAR THAT KILLED MY SON!
Even if you don't live in the Evansville area, please keep an eye out for this car. It was traveling South on I-69. It could have been coming from and going to anywhere. The Sheriff's office will follow up any ANY lead.

The Sheriff’s Office has identified the make and model of the suspect vehicle from the fatal hit and run crash that killed 23-year old David “Davy” Egan, father of two, on Friday, June 22, 2018 on I-69 near south Green River Road.

SUSPECT VEHICLE: Silver 1998-2002 Honda Accord sedan. 2-door or 4-door body style. The vehicle will have damage to the front end.

If you know of a vehicle matching this description, please contact the Sheriff's Office TIP line at 812-421-6297 or leave a web tip here.

Monday, August 13, 2018

I Am ...

In fifth grade, each student is required to write a soliloquy of sorts. The teacher provided an example of how it should be written and each student wrote their own. Davy's was the only one that followed the formula, made sense, and was eloquently written. None of the other students came even remotely close to the perfection of Davy's

When I saw it, I told the teacher I wanted it. He said he wanted to keep all of them. I told him I really wanted it ... that I loved it and wanted to frame it. I beat him down until he gradually gave in and let me have it.

The girls both wrote one in fifth grade. I still have theirs, but they don't make much sense. It wasn't until I saw Davy's that I even realized what I was reading was their attempt at the same thing.

It remains one of my most prized possessions.


I am ...

I am a wrestler and a winner.
I wonder if I can be a state champion.
I hear the audience cheering.
I see the ref.
I want to get a pin.
I am a wrestler and a winner

I pretend I don't care about winning.
I feel strong.
I touch the mat.
I worry about losing.
I cry win (when) I lose sometimes.
I am a wrestler and a winner.

I understand I will win.
I say I can do it.
I dream of going to state.
I hope I win.
I am a wrestler and a winner.

By Dave Egan



PLEASE KEEP YOUR EYE OUT
FOR THE CAR THAT KILLED MY SON!
Even if you don't live in the Evansville area, please keep an eye out for this car. It was traveling South on I-69. It could have been coming from and going to anywhere. The Sheriff's office will follow up any ANY lead.

The Sheriff’s Office has identified the make and model of the suspect vehicle from the fatal hit and run crash that killed 23-year old David “Davy” Egan, father of two, on Friday, June 22, 2018 on I-69 near south Green River Road.

SUSPECT VEHICLE: Silver 1998-2002 Honda Accord sedan. 2-door or 4-door body style. The vehicle will have damage to the front end.

If you know of a vehicle matching this description, please contact the Sheriff's Office TIP line at 812-421-6297 or leave a web tip here.

Friday, August 10, 2018

We Planted Davy's Roadside Cross Last Night

We were lucky enough to have a deputy with the Vanderburgh Sheriff's Department, Zach Whicker, who sat in his car with lights flashing to keep us safe while we set it up. I hope he knows how grateful we are to have his assistance.


The cross wasn't as big as we thought it would be, but that's what you get when you order online and don't pay close enough attention to the dimensions. But, it's made of steel and coated so that it's rust-proof. Besides, the cross is for the people who loved Davy, not necessarily passers-by.


This is something I never thought I'd have to do. This is just one of many "firsts" I've had to face, and there will be many more in the coming year. Shopping for clothes to bury my son was something I never thought I'd have to do. Seeing my child in a casket was another thing I never thought I'd have to endure. Picking out the clothes and shoes to wear to the funeral home for my son was yet another thing I never thought I'd be forced to do. It's not that cared what I looked like, I just knew I'd be standing all day, so I needed to wear comfortable shoes ... and I knew I'd need pockets for tissues. Most of women's dresses don't have pockets, but I have a few that do, so those were the dresses I had to choose from. I certainly didn't want to go shopping for a new dress. All I really wanted to do was sleep, or sit on the sofa and stair off into space. Besides, my closet is bulging with dresses ... the last thing I need is another one.



Davy died on the overpass itself, so we couldn't mark the exact spot with his cross. We chose to set it next to the 30 mile marker. It seemed fitting, since that is the marker everyone referenced in the 911 calls.

Placing Davy's cross wasn't a pleasant experience, but we were able to hold off on the tears until the very end. It felt good to publicly honor my son. Most people who drive by probably won't see it, but the people who love him will ... and that's all that matters.

PLEASE KEEP YOUR EYE OUT
FOR THE CAR THAT KILLED MY SON!
Even if you don't live in the Evansville area, please keep an eye out for this car. It was traveling South on I-69. It could have been coming from and going to anywhere. The Sheriff's office will follow up any ANY lead.

The Sheriff’s Office has identified the make and model of the suspect vehicle from the fatal hit and run crash that killed 23-year old David “Davy” Egan, father of two, on Friday, June 22, 2018 on I-69 near south Green River Road.

SUSPECT VEHICLE: Silver 1998-2002 Honda Accord sedan. 2-door or 4-door body style. The vehicle will have damage to the front end.

If you know of a vehicle matching this description, please contact the Sheriff's Office TIP line at 812-421-6297 or leave a web tip here.

Thursday, August 9, 2018

Davy's First Selfie

Back in the early 2000's with my digital camera ... before selfie's were fashionable. He was quite the trendsetter!


PLEASE KEEP YOUR EYE OUT
FOR THE CAR THAT KILLED MY SON!
Even if you don't live in the Evansville area, please keep an eye out for this car. It was traveling South on I-69. It could have been coming from and going to anywhere. The Sheriff's office will follow up any ANY lead.

The Sheriff’s Office has identified the make and model of the suspect vehicle from the fatal hit and run crash that killed 23-year old David “Davy” Egan, father of two, on Friday, June 22, 2018 on I-69 near south Green River Road.

SUSPECT VEHICLE: Silver 1998-2002 Honda Accord sedan. 2-door or 4-door body style. The vehicle will have damage to the front end.

If you know of a vehicle matching this description, please contact the Sheriff's Office TIP line at 812-421-6297 or leave a web tip here.

Wednesday, August 8, 2018

School Starts Today


This picture is the first day of high school for Thing 1, seventh grade for Thing 2, and fifth grade for Thing 3. This was a "fun" year ... they were all three at different schools. We all made it through somehow, and I always managed to get everyone to school on time, every day.

Their growing up years were so hectic for me. In addition to running the house single-handedly, getting everyone to school, dance practice, tumbling, cheerleading, karate, wrestling, parties, ball games, sleepovers, doctor/dentist appointments, etc., often required the skills on par with a CIA logistics expert. Looking back, I don't know how I did it. Sometimes I was so overwhelmed I felt like I was hanging on by my fingernails ... but what I wouldn't give to go back and do it over again.

PLEASE KEEP YOUR EYE OUT
FOR THE CAR THAT KILLED MY SON!
Even if you don't live in the Evansville area, please keep an eye out for this car. It was traveling South on I-69. It could have been coming from and going to anywhere. The Sheriff's office will follow up any ANY lead.

The Sheriff’s Office has identified the make and model of the suspect vehicle from the fatal hit and run crash that killed 23-year old David “Davy” Egan, father of two, on Friday, June 22, 2018 on I-69 near south Green River Road.

SUSPECT VEHICLE: Silver 1998-2002 Honda Accord sedan. 2-door or 4-door body style. The vehicle will have damage to the front end.

If you know of a vehicle matching this description, please contact the Sheriff's Office TIP line at 812-421-6297 or leave a web tip here.

Tuesday, August 7, 2018

My Coffee Mug

Many years ago, Thing 1 bought me a Thomas Kincaide coffee mug. I took it to work with me at the law firm, and brought it with me when I got hired here. She would be pleased to know I still use it every time I'm at my office downtown.



PLEASE KEEP YOUR EYE OUT
FOR THE CAR THAT KILLED MY SON!
Even if you don't live in the Evansville area, please keep an eye out for this car. It was traveling South on I-69. It could have been coming from and going to anywhere. The Sheriff's office will follow up any ANY lead.

The Sheriff’s Office has identified the make and model of the suspect vehicle from the fatal hit and run crash that killed 23-year old David “Davy” Egan, father of two, on Friday, June 22, 2018 on I-69 near south Green River Road.

SUSPECT VEHICLE: Silver 1998-2002 Honda Accord sedan. 2-door or 4-door body style. The vehicle will have damage to the front end.

If you know of a vehicle matching this description, please contact the Sheriff's Office TIP line at 812-421-6297 or leave a web tip here.

Monday, August 6, 2018

Not Much About This Weekend Went Right

Friday I got a lot done, but Saturday was a little different. I got up early to have my coffee, water the plants, and go to the grocery before I got my grandbabies ... then I remembered the older two were out of town with their mom. When I got home from the grocery, I noticed antifreeze leaking (profusely) from my car. I texted my son-in-law to let him know I had another project for him. That man has saved me thousands of dollars in car repairs! As it stands now, it looks like it's the water pump. Oh, goodie!


I was disappointed that I didn't get to see all of my grandbabies, but I did get to see both of my daughters, and got to spend one-on-one time with what is most likely the cutest Republican ever ..


Sunday I got up early to have my coffee and cut the grass. But, before I could cut the grass, I had to get a stupid gum ball dislodged from between the roller and the self-propelled belt on my lawn mower. Try as I might, I could not budge the nuts.

After knocking on all my neighbors doors, I found one home, and he kindly came down to help me. He had the mower taken apart, the gum ball removed, and the parts replaced in mere minutes. I thanked him profusely, then he left to join his adorable little daughter and very pregnant wife for breakfast.

The mower had to be laid on it's side to be worked on, so I knew I had to let it sit for a while. No problem ... I had plenty of things to do. I decided ro sweep up the rocks in the road that wash out every time we get a heavy rain. While I was working on that, another neighbor (the one who lent me his post hole digger to plant the boxwoods came over with his John Deere riding mower to cut my hill. I crossed my hands over my heart and mouthed "Thank you" to him as I moved my shovel and broom out of the way. He nodded his acceptance of my gratitude ... then got his mower lodged between a drainage pipe and the hill. He called yet another neighbor, who had him pulled out in mere minutes.


By this time, the mower had sat long enough that it should start ... but for some reason, the pull cord wouldn't pull. I tried adjusting everything I knew to adjust (which is the tension on the self-propelled ... which also has nothing to do with the pull cord) ... so I decided God did not want me cutting the grass this weekend. I put the mower in the garage. I thought about planting the vinca vines, but I can't do that until I have mulch to help hold the soil in place, and I can't find the mulch I like. With yard work off the table, I went inside and took a shower.

After my shower, I grilled chicken for my lunches this week, but I was almost afraid to touch the grill. It went fine, but had the grill exploded, it wouldn't have surprised me in the least.


PLEASE KEEP YOUR EYE OUT
FOR THE CAR THAT KILLED MY SON!
Even if you don't live in the Evansville area, please keep an eye out for this car. It was traveling South on I-69. It could have been coming from and going to anywhere. The Sheriff's office will follow up any ANY lead.

The Sheriff’s Office has identified the make and model of the suspect vehicle from the fatal hit and run crash that killed 23-year old David “Davy” Egan, father of two, on Friday, June 22, 2018 on I-69 near south Green River Road.

SUSPECT VEHICLE: Silver 1998-2002 Honda Accord sedan. 2-door or 4-door body style. The vehicle will have damage to the front end.

If you know of a vehicle matching this description, please contact the Sheriff's Office TIP line at 812-421-6297 or leave a web tip here.

Sunday, August 5, 2018

And Then He Was Gone ...

Fishing in the Wabash River, 2005
 When I heard someone say, "Boys are SO much easier to raise than girls", I would literally laugh in their face! There were many, many more sleepless nights, tears shed, and lost days at work because of my son. I pray for my kids every day, but I prayed for Davy much more fervently ... because he was still searching for his footing in life, and the girls seemed to have found theirs.

I would by lying if I said raising Davy was a walk in the park. He was stubborn, argumentative, and refused to give in, regardless of the cost. In an argument, he would risk everything to gain nothing. But after the accident that severed the artery and nerves in his arm, he was forced to learn ask for help. He was forced to learn a new way to open things, use scissors and tools, eat, write, etc. It made him slow down. It frustrated him, but Davy was never one to give up. That accident changed Davy. It made his life more difficult, but it made him much more determined to succeed.

And it softened his heart. He always had a huge, generous, empathetic heart, but he had been running life at 200 mph. This injury forced him to slow down, and as he did, he started seeing things in a whole new light. It's like taking a walk with a toddler. When adults take walks, they look ahead toward where they're going ... toddlers look around at what they are passing. They see the flowers and the butterflies and the garden decor that adults are too busy to see. I loved taking walks with my kids when they were young. They pointed out all of the things I walked or drove past every day and never saw.


They were enchanted with the "pine cone tree". On every walk, we would stop someplace for a cold drink and a snack, or ice cream. They knew knew to stay on the right side of me on the sidewalk ... so that I was closest to traffic. They knew to stop at every driveway and make sure no one was backing out before proceeding. They knew when I said "Stop", that meant to stop immediately ... and they did.

When our walk ended, they always wanted to go by the pine cone tree. There was a pine tree behind a church near our home. They were fascinated with a tree that could create such a treasure and leave them on the ground for the taking. They'd ask, "Can we take some home, Mama?", and of course, I said yes.They'd finish their candy then begin picking up as many pine cones as they could carry.

After Davy's arm accident, he began to see the world differently. Instead of the selfish adolescent, he was becoming a mature man. There was also a change in the way he treated me. We didn't argue and butt heads as we did so much while he was growing up. Taking him to his visits to his doctor in Louisville was a pleasure. It was just me and Davy, talking and laughing and reminiscing. I loved those drives.

And then he was gone.

Despite his limitations, he spent the last night of his life talking to his job coach, setting up a meeting and talking about the interviews they had set up for him for the next week. His very last conversation was with the manager of the Dollar General Store near his home. He stopped to ask if they had any openings, telling them he wanted a job. Not being able to use his right arm had forced him to lower his expectations. He just wanted a job ... any job ... until he could regain the strength in his arm and get a "real" job. He wanted to go to Ivy Tech and become a certified mechanic. He had always loved working on cars, but he needed his arm to fully heal before he could do that.

And then he was gone.

At times, Davy's antics and actions put me through hell ... but he was always my baby and I loved him unconditionally. Everyone always said, "He'll grow up one day." He might have been nearly 24 years old when he died, but he was just becoming an adult.

And then he was gone.

Now, all I have are memories, both good and bad. Growing up, Davy was often like the little girl in a poem by Henry Wadsworth Longfellow ...

There once was a girl,
who had a little curl,
right in the middle of her forehead.
When she was good,
she was very very good,
but when she was bad she was horrid.

Davy was finally emerging from the fog and privilege of his youth into finding his way in the world as a man. Through all the ups and downs, I loved him as only a mother can, I was looking forward to watching him continue to grow into the man I always knew he'd be.

And then he was gone.



PLEASE KEEP YOUR EYE OUT
FOR THE CAR THAT KILLED MY SON!
Even if you don't live in the Evansville area, please keep an eye out for this car. It was traveling South on I-69. It could have been coming from and going to anywhere. The Sheriff's office will follow up any ANY lead.

The Sheriff’s Office has identified the make and model of the suspect vehicle from the fatal hit and run crash that killed 23-year old David “Davy” Egan, father of two, on Friday, June 22, 2018 on I-69 near south Green River Road.

SUSPECT VEHICLE: Silver 1998-2002 Honda Accord sedan. 2-door or 4-door body style. The vehicle will have damage to the front end.

If you know of a vehicle matching this description, please contact the Sheriff's Office TIP line at 812-421-6297 or leave a web tip here.